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Fitting, Belonging, Belief, Fit in

The world thinks I’m ignorant 
Because my belief is unfathomable 

My culture says I’m lost
Because I don’t hold their superstitions 

The religious think I’m lukewarm 
For believing that “Grace” and “Truth” can mingle

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And the Word (Christ) became flesh, and lived among us; and we [actually] saw His glory, glory as belongs to the [One and] only begotten Son of the Father, [the Son who is truly unique, the only One of His kind, who is] full of grace and truth (absolutely free of deception). John 1:14


In this world, we often find ourselves struggling to fit in within our families, friends, schoolmates, coworkers, church members, political parties, etc. Yet, it is better to strive to belong than to fit in. Otherwise, you will struggle to champion new trials all your life.  

Grace & Truth

Grace and truth aren’t really contradictory. Jesus didn’t switch on truth, then turn it off so He could switch on grace. Both are permanently switched on in Jesus. Both should be switched on in us… Truth without grace breeds a self-righteousness legalism that poisons the church and pushes the world from Christ. Grace without truth breeds moral indifference and keeps people from seeing their need for Christ.  Attempts to “soften” the gospel by minimizing truth keep people from Jesus. Attempts to “toughen” the gospel by minimizing grace keep people from Jesus. It’s not enough for us to offer grace or truth. We must offer both. Randy Alcorn 

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As a Christian, I am struggling, fighting to stay true to myself, and constantly tempted to prove to the world that just because I am Christian does not mean that I’m not a “thinker” or lover of logic. And to my fellow Christians just because I love other subjects and topics other than Christianity does not mean I’m not fully invested in my faith.  

Fitting vs. Belonging


Many will devalue you as less intelligent or a non-thinker because of your faith. Meanwhile, most religious people will criticize you for not being religious enough. Either way, there is always a need to prove yourself but remember you do not owe anyone any explanation. God sees your heart and knows you by name. 

You have searched me, Lord,
    and you know me.
 You know when I sit and when I rise;
    you perceive my thoughts from afar. Psalm 139:1-2


Stay true to yourself and keep working toward balancing “Truth” and “Grace”. We all need both in our lives and our society. Above all you belong to God.

Thank you for reading. Happy July 4th Weekend. Stay Blessed Always!

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13 thoughts on “Fitting Vs. Belonging

  1. Fredrick G. Kanja – East Africa – I am highly motivated with strong leadership, organizational and interpersonal traits. As a dynamic person, I appreciate challenges and value the diverse opportunities and energy of working within a team. I am a team leader. My core values are integrity, excellence and servant leadership. As an individual, I like responsibilities, I am hardworking, I enjoy the challenges of new situations and derive much pleasure from improving my abilities in helping others improve theirs
    Fredrick G. Kanja says:

    Wow! wow😊
    Am DEEPLY touched Dearest.
    This is very moving of my heart that I caught a glimpse grasping it bit by bit ; I felt the need to repeatedly read in between the lines to make sure amn’t missing a sense of it all .Have learnt so much about the Grace, Truth , Christianity and their relationship in subject to a Christ-like life 😊😊

    In mind I have Have that the Question ‘Why we mostly judging other while we sinning differently? . Forgetting the truth that only the works of Grace and Mercy have also kept us this far we are. 🤔🤔

    I can live my life only subjective to God alone and not to impress or proof anyth to fellow human beings .

    Glory be to God for such a sermon

    1. Marie Cook
      Marie Jeanderine Cook says:

      Thank you, Fredrick, for your usual thoughtful and insightful comments.

      We are often too quick in judging others based on what we perceive about them and not what God says about them.

      It is a hard, but we should only try to please God who sees us for who we are.

      Thank you so much. Have a wonderful weekend😊

  2. thank you. We do belong to God and not the critics! God bless you.

    1. Marie Cook
      Marie Jeanderine Cook says:

      You’re welcome, dear. Oh yes, we belong to him alone. Thank you, God bless you, too.

  3. Kendi Karimi – Kendi Karim graduated top of her class with first-class honors in Mass Communication. She has worked in and written for media houses, newspapers, blogs, magazines, and creative institutions like Homeboyz radio, The Saturday Nation, and Vivo Woman and is currently a full-time writer. She is also a creative entrepreneur who enjoys the occasional play with canvas and music composition. She writes at @kendikarimi on Instagram. Her short story 'What Does It Mean To Be Kind Anyway' was shortlisted for the Wakini Kuria prize for children’s literature and she has been awarded a certificate of recognition by the BIC group. 🙏🏽 Her first poetry collection called The Cages We Built premiered at #4 on Amazon's bestseller list. It can also be found at Naivas supermarket, Writer's Guild Kenya bookshop, Kibanga books, Nuria the Honest Store and Candy and Books in Kenya. 🎉 Her work includes: Poetry: • What I Mean When I Talk About Love • All The Petals Of The Universe 1 • All The Petals Of The Universe 2 • Liquid Love • Knitting My Soul • The Cages We Built Self-help: • The Six-figure Lifestyle: 42 small changes that will turn you into a millionaire Fiction: • Life In No Order : A compilation of short stories • Murdering Romance • My Cat Family and Friends • A romance fictional novel called Seduced By A Virgin (wattpad) She also provides cover design and book editing services. For more information on this, email kendik.biz@gmail.com. She is a proud member of Writer's Guild Kenya. Kendi hopes to become a fully-fledged creative entrepreneur and live a life of open expression through her writing. 'I'm a poet for the lovers, dreamers and believers. For the hope give-ups and the heart beat ups.' You can find her on Instagram and all other social media accounts @kendikarimi including wattpad, Reedsy, Goodreads and LinkedIn.
    KENDI KARIMI says:

    Eye opening article. 💯👌

    1. Marie Cook
      Marie Jeanderine Cook says:

      Thank you, dear, for reading. Have a wonderful weekend 😊

  4. Manu
    Perth Girl says:

    I really loved this post. Grace and truth are needed. There is indeed a balance between the two and we have to remember that we are His and that is what matters , not trying to fit into the mold of what the world thinks is ideal.
    Excellent post Marie 💙.

    1. Marie Cook
      Marie Jeanderine Cook says:

      Thank you, dear. Indeed, we have been adopted into Gods family and will always have a place there.

  5. Debananda Roy – Worked in different civil society organization , want to learn,share different kind of information that have value in our life. Exchange of information is welcome here. Together we can serve a large number of people... can be helping hands of each other towards development.. running a small blog-www.goodcause6.wordpress.com
    Debananda Roy says:

    Loving God does n’t mean one becomes illogical. There are many things in the world , science even could n’t explain it yet. Love mankind To love God. He is there in disguise, watching everything….. in many forms .. in many places .
    Liked your content.

    1. Marie Cook
      Marie Jeanderine Cook says:

      Well said, I couldn’t have said it better than this. Thank you for your thoughtful insights. Indeed, God is everywhere.

      Have a wonderful weekend.

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